"The Power of Choice: How Small Decisions Shape Your Life and Personal Growth"

We have the power to choose everything in our lives. Have you ever stopped to think about how a simple, small choice can change the entire structure of a life?

Well... I'm currently 42 years old, and for the first time in so many years, I truly see how much my life has transformed because of my choices.

Right now, I'm living through a period of transition and immense resilience, trying to make everything fall into place and return to what it once was... all because of one wrong choice.

I believe everything is part of a greater lesson. And yesterday, pleading to God, the constellations, the planets, and the universe to enlighten me, I thought: "Deep down, did I make a wrong choice? Or is the universe sending me the signs I’ve been asking for to help guide my decisions?"

At some point in life, things may not go as we hoped (and EVERYONE, without exception, will face this moment one day), but only we have the power to change any situation through our choices. Isn’t that amazing?

Sometimes, the "wrong" choices aren’t even ours directly—they’re made by friends, relatives, etc. But because we’re connected to these people, we "pay the price." So what do we do then?

Remember what I said about choices? So, you get to choose: do you take on someone else’s problems (especially in romantic or family relationships that tend to last longer), or do you choose to take responsibility only for your own? Simple as that! And this includes learning to say NO.

The big question is: do I take on the responsibility (and mistake) of another person (and pay for it), or do I choose my mental health, my life philosophy, and let the universe teach that person their lesson so they can learn and rise on their own?

I have a few contradictory thoughts about this... I believe we all make mistakes. So yes, it’s always worth helping—depending on the person’s track record. I’m not discriminating, I want to make that clear, but to me, it doesn’t make much sense to help someone who is always tangled up in problems, from the simplest to the most complex. Helping someone like that only feeds into the snowball. To summarize: if I know someone who has always worked hard, shown good behavior, and is going through a rough patch, I’d help. Otherwise, I wouldn’t... But that’s my line of thinking, okay? You don’t have to agree with me. That’s part of our main topic: CHOICES! :)

Another thing I believe: each person goes through what they need to for their own evolution. We all have opportunities. I’ve seen people with no arms or legs working with their mouths to paint; I’ve seen people without arms selling goods on the streets. So why can’t able-bodied homeless people work? "Oh, there are no opportunities." Really? Have these people actually tried? I believe there are always exceptions, but for the most part, we all have opportunities to grow and climb out of any deep pit we’ve fallen into. And this is part of the learning process.

Depending on the help a person receives, they might not learn the lesson. Let me give you a comparison: a caterpillar creates its cocoon, and when it's ready to emerge as a butterfly, it starts freeing itself. Have you ever seen this process? It comes out of the cocoon all sticky, moist, and needs time for its wings to dry before it can fly. Now imagine if someone, feeling sorry for the butterfly, helped it out before it was ready. That natural cycle of growth and learning would be broken, and it would likely hurt its first flight.

That’s how I believe it works for humans too. We need to evolve and transform, and everything in our lives is part of that learning. It’s not about being cold or harsh—it’s about following the natural logic of things. Humans (in general) only truly value what they earn—not what they’re given.

So, to summarize: I would help—and I wouldn’t. It depends on the situation!

Oh, and one more important detail: never give or do for others what you don’t even have for yourself. If you don’t have your health, for example, don’t try to take care of someone who’s sick. You won’t be able to solve either person’s problem. Take care of yourself! Only give to others what won’t leave you lacking—whether that’s material things or something intangible. Our hearts can be pure, but that’s not always true for everyone else’s.

To wrap it up: everything comes down to choices. But here’s a tip: CHOOSE YOURSELF first, because the reason I’m even writing this is that I chose to allow certain situations into my life that turned everything upside down... So think about yourself and take care of yourself! I’ve decided to take care of myself, and now I’m in the cocoon (weathering storms and gales, but internally certain that one day I’ll fly). And I know that nature never fails in its cycle!

I could write all day about this, but I need to choose to go work now! :)

See you soon! Wishing you good choices for today! Namaste!

:)

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